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=20 Not only is ?Je suis excit&ea= cute;' not the appropriate way to convey excitement in French, but there se= ems to be no real way to express it at all.When I was 19 years old, after f= ive years of back-and-forth trips that grew longer each time, I finally rel= ocated officially from the United States to France. Already armed with a fa= irly good grasp of the language, I was convinced that I would soon assimila= te into French culture.Of course, I was wrong. There's nothing like cultura= l nuance to remind you who you are at your core: my Americanness became all= the more perceptible the longer I remained in France, and perhaps no more = so than the day a French teacher told me his theory on the key distinction = between those from my native and adopted lands.?You Americans,? he said, ?l= ive in the faire to do. The avoir to have. In France, we live in the ê= ;tre to be.?Writer Emily Monaco was told that the key difference between Am= ericans and the French is that the French ?live in the être' The mome= nt he said it, it made perfect sense. I thought back to my life in New York= , where every moment was devoted to checking tasks off a perpetual to-do li= st or planning for the days, weeks and years to come. In France, however, p= eople were perfectly contented to just be.During two-hour lunch breaks, the= y sat at sidewalk cafes and watched the world pass them by. Small talk was = made up not of what they did for a living, but where they had recently been= on holiday. Women working at the post office chatted lazily with one anoth= er as the queue ticked slowly forward, enjoying the company of their co-wor= kers while I impatiently waited to buy stamps so that I could fulfil my sel= f-assigned obligation of sending postcards home.I wanted very badly to blen= d in and live in the être, but it was harder than it looked. It seeme= d that no matter what I did, I exposed myself as an American. I smiled too = much. I spoke too loudly. And I got excited way too often.In France, people= are perfectly content just to beI knew before moving that the French word = ?excité' was verboten. It is one of the first ?false friends' that a= student of the language becomes aware of. Most French learners can recall = the day that a classmate first uttered the phrase ?Je suis excité' (= which literally translates as ?I am excited') only to have their teacher he= m and haw uncomfortably before explaining that the word excité doesn= 't signal emotional but rather physical excitement. A better translation of= the phrase Je suis excité into English would be ?I am aroused'.Fren= ch doesn't have the excited/aroused lexical pair that English does, so one = word does both jobs. Excité technically denotes excitement both ?obj= ective (a state of stimulation) and subjective (feelings),? according to Ol= ivier Frayssé, professor of American Civilization at Paris-Sorbonne = University, but the physical sensation is the one most often implied. ?If ?= aroused' existed, it would be unnecessary to interpret ?excité' this= way,? he explained.    Our cooler, calmer, more reticent si= des come out when we're speaking FrenchAnglophones, meanwhile, blessed with= both words, are free to use ?excited' as we please ? which we (particularl= y Americans) do with reckless abandon. We're excited for our weekend plans,= for the summer holiday, to get home after a long day of work and relax in = front of our favourite Netflix show. But English speakers who live in Franc= e have no way to express this sentiment in the language of our adopted coun= try. As opposed to other false friends ? like ?Je suis pleine', which means= not ?I'm full', as its literal translation suggests, but ?I'm pregnant', f= orcing Francophones to use periphrases like ?J'ai assez mangé' (?I'v= e eaten enough') ? not only is ?Je suis excité' not the appropriate = way to convey excitement, but there seems to be no real way to express it a= t all.?I usually say ?Je suis heureuse' ?I'm happy' or ?J'ai hâte de'= ?I'm looking forward to',? one bilingual friend said. Neither quite captur= es the intensity of excitement, but it seems these are the best substitutes= that French has to offer.?I think it's safe to say I express excitement of= ten and outwardly,? said bilingual Australian Dr Gemma King, who teaches Fr= ench language and cinema at the Australian National University in Canberra,= noting that when she speaks French, it is another story entirely. ?My stud= ents and I often joke that our cooler, calmer, more reticent sides come out= when we're speaking French,? she said.There seems to be no real way to exp= ress excitement in FranceNot only is ?Je suis excité' not the approp= riate way to convey excitement in France, but there seems to be no real way= to express it at all (Credit: Rostislav Glinsky/Alamy)This is not, then, a= mere question of translation, but rather a question of culture. Like other= untranslatable terms like Japan's shinrin-yoku (the relaxation gained from= being around nature) or dadirri (deep, reflective listening) in aboriginal= Australian, it seems as though the average French person doesn't need to e= xpress excitement on the day to day.For Julie Barlow, Canadian co-author of= The Story of French and The Bonjour Effect, this is largely due to the imp= lied enthusiasm in the word ?excited', something that's not sought after in= French culture. She notes that Francophone Canadians, culturally North Ame= rican rather than French, find work-arounds such as ?Ça m'enthousias= me' (?It enthuses me').?The French don't appreciate in conversation a kind = of positive, sunny exuberance that's really typical of Americans and that w= e really value,? Barlow explained. ?Verbally, ?I'm so excited' is sort of a= smile in words. French people prefer to come across as kind of negative, b= y reflex.My French husband agrees.?If you're too happy in French, we're kin= d of wondering what's wrong with you,? he said. ?But in English, that's not= true.?The French don't appreciate in conversation a kind of positive, sunn= y exuberance that's really typical of AmericansJulie Barlow: ?The French do= n't appreciate in conversation a kind of positive, sunny exuberance that's = really typical of Americans? For some, however, it's not necessarily negati= vity that the French seek, but reserve.?I think there is something cultural= about the greater level of reservation French people tend to show in every= day conversation,? Dr King said. ?From my perspective, it doesn't mean they= show less enthusiasm, but perhaps less of an emotional investment in thing= s they are enthusiastic about.?Indeed, those who are unable to show the pro= per emotional detachment within French society can even be perceived as bei= ng somehow deranged, something that is exemplified by the pejorative labell= ing of former President Nicolas Sarkozy as ?l'excité', due to the ze= al he shows in public appearances.The average French person does not need t= o express excitement on a day-to-day basisAmerican Matt Jenner lived in Fra= nce for several years and is bilingual. For him, it is not necessarily a ma= tter of the French not being able to express their excitement, but rather t= hat English speakers ? and Americans in particular ? tend to go overboard. = The American public, he says, has been trained ?to have a fake, almost cart= oonish view on life, in which superficial excitement and false happiness ar= e the norm.? By comparison, he notes, in France, ?excitement is typically s= hown only when it is truly meant.?Authenticity has been important to the Fr= ench since the Revolution, according to Brice Couturier at France Culture. = ?The Ancien Régime, indeed, had cultivated a culture of the court an= d of salons, based on the art of appearances and pleasing,? he said. ?This = culture implied a great mastery of the behavioural codes of the time, as we= ll as an ability to conceal one's true emotions.?    Excitem= ent is typically shown only when it is truly meantIn reaction, Couturier co= ntinued, the French revolutionaries fought back against these masks and thi= s hypocrisy ? something that the French maintain today by expressing their = emotions as truthfully as possible to avoid appearing inauthentic.This tend= ency was something that irked me when I first noticed it: French friends sa= ying that a dish they tried in a restaurant was just ?fine', or shrugging n= onchalantly when I asked if they were looking forward to their holiday. The= ir attitude struck me as unnecessarily negative. But on our first joint vis= it to the US, my husband opened my eyes to the somewhat forced hyperbole of= American excitement. After our server cheerfully greeted us at a restauran= t, he asked if she was a friend of mine; he could think of no other reason = why her welcome would be so enthusiastic.?I used to judge Americans because= I thought they were always too ecstatic, always having disproportionate re= actions,? he told me years later, though now, he added, ?I feel like I have= two worlds in my head, one in French and one in English. I feel like the E= nglish world is a lot more fun than the French one.?The French express thei= r emotions as truthfully as possible to avoid appearing inauthentic (Credit= : Credit: Kathy deWitt/Alamy)After 11 years of living in France, my innate = desire to say ?Je suis excitée? has faded. But I still fixate on the= idea that the French live in the être.When we were first dating, my = husband used to watch me buzzing around like a busy bee, making plans for t= he future. He, meanwhile, was able to find not excitement, but contentment,= in nearly everything. His frequent motto, whether we were drinking ros&eac= ute; in the sunshine or just sitting in a park, was: ?on est bien, là= ;? ? we are good, here.Excitement, after all, has a forward-thinking connot= ation, a necessary suggestion of the future. Ubiquitous in Anglophone cultu= re, where we are often thinking about imminent or far-off plans, about goal= s and dreams, this is far less present among French people who, on the cont= rary, tend to live more in the moment. It's not necessarily that they don't= think of the future but that they don't fixate on the future. They conside= r it, cerebrally, but their emotions are in the present.?Life in France pla= ces you happily in the present tense,? Paris-based author Matthew Fraser to= ld The Local, ?unlike in Anglo-Protestant countries where everything is dri= ving madly towards the future.?    Life in France places you= happily in the present tenseThe excitement that drives Anglophones to acti= on, motivating us and driving us to look ahead is not nearly as present in = France. But joie de vivre and contentment in simple pleasures certainly are= And when one is living in the moment, there's no need to think about ? or= get excited about ? what's next.
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