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Email sent five minutes later From: Bernadette Fox To: Manjula Kapoor Nobody can say I didnt give it the college try. But I just cant go through with it. I cant go to Antarctica. How Ill ever extract myself, Im not sure. But I have faith in us, Manjula. Together we can do anything. * From Dad to Dr. Janelle Kurtz, a shrink at Madrona Hill Dr. Kurtz, My friend Hannah Dillard sang your praises regarding her husband, Franks, stay at Madrona Hill. From what I understand, Frank was struggling with depression. His inpatient treatment at Madrona Hill, under your supervision, did him wonders. I write you because I too am deeply concerned about my spouse. Her name is Bernadette Fox, and I fear she is very sick.

(Forgive my shambolic penmanship. Im on an airplane, and my laptop battery is dead so Ive taken up a pen for the first time in years. Ill press on, as I think its important to get everything down while its fresh in the memory.) Ill begin with some background. Bernadette and I met about twentyfive years ago in Los Angeles, when the architecture firm for which she worked redesigned the animation house for which I worked. We were both from the East Coast and had gone to prep school. Bernadette was a rising star. I was taken by her beauty, gregariousness, and insouciant charm. We married. I was working on an idea I had for computer animation. My company was bought by Microsoft. Bernadette ran into trouble with a house she was building and abruptly declared herself through with the L.A. architecture scene. To my surprise, she was the engine behind our move to Seattle. Bernadette flew up to look at houses. She called to say she had found the perfect place, the Straight Gate School for s, in Queen Anne. To anyone else, a crumbling reform school might seem an odd place to call home. But this was Bernadette, and she was enthusiastic. Bernadette and her enthusiasm were like a hippo and water: get between them and youll be trampled to death. We moved to Seattle. I was swallowed whole by Microsoft.

Bernadette became pregnant and had the first of a series of miscarriages. After three years, she passed the first term. At the beginning of her second term, she was put on bed rest. The house, which was a blank canvas on which Bernadette was to work her magic, understandably languished. There were leaks, strange drafts, and the occasional weed pushing up through a floorboard. My concern was for Bernadettes healthshe didnt need the stress of a remodel, she needed to stay putso we wore parkas inside, rotated spaghetti pots when it rained, and kept a pair of pruning shears in a vase in the living room. It felt romantic. Our daughter, Bee, was born prematurely. She came out blue. She was diagnosed with hypoplastic left heart syndrome. I imagine that having a sick can knit a husband and wife together, or rip them apart. In our case, it did neither. Bernadette immersed herself so thoroughly in Bees recovery that it became her every fiber. I worked even longer hours and called it a partnership: Bernadette would call the shots; Id pay for them.

By the time Bee entered kindergarten, she was healthy, if unusually small for her age. I always assumed this was when Bernadette would return to her architecture practice or, at the very least, fix up our house. Leaks had become holes in the roof; windows with small cracks had become cardboardandducttape panels. Once a week, the gardener weedwhacked under the rugs. Our home was literally returning to the earth. When Bee was five, I was in her room playing restaurant. She took my order, and after lots of furious activity in her miniature kitchen, she brought me my lunch. It was damp and brown. It smelled like dirt, but fluffier. I dug it up, she remarked proudly, and pointed to the wood floor. It was so damp from the years of rain, Bee could literally dig into it with a spoon. Once Bee was settled into kindergarten, Bernadette showed no interest in fixing up the house, or in any kind of work. All the energy she had once channeled so fearlessly into architecture, she turned toward fulminating about Seattle, in the form of wild rants that required no less than an hour to fully express. Take fiveway intersections. The first time Bernadette commented on the abundance of fiveway intersections in Seattle, it seemed perfectly relevant. I hadnt noticed it myself, but indeed there were many intersections with an extra street jutting out, and which required you to wait through an extra traffic light cycle.

Certainly worthy of a conversation between a husband and wife. But the second time Bernadette went off on the same topic, I wondered, Is there something new she wishes to add But no. She was just complaining with renewed vehemence. She asked me to ask Bill Gates why hed still live in a city with so many ridiculous intersections. I came home and she asked if Id asked him yet. One day she got a map of old Seattle and explained that there were once six separate grid systems, which, over time, bled together without a master plan. One night, on the way to a restaurant, she drove miles out of our way to show me where three of the grids met, and there was an intersection with seven streets coming out. Then she timed it while we waited at the stoplight. The helterskelter layout of Seattle streets was just one of Bernadettes greatest hits.