Just back from the General convention of the Episcopal Church, so I have heard "gender" up to here. From all of that, I gather that it might be more useful to search for a number of particular terms, rather than a general one like "gender". Leaving aside sex (at least two definitions, one genetic with about a half dozen slots, one plumbing with an at least two dimensional field with countless cluster points) and sexual orientation (presented as a linear array with about a half dozen cluster points, but also implicitly two such arrays, differing loosely by sex), there remain gender roles (differing from one micro society to another and covering areas from personal hygiene to crafts and beyond) gender roling (conforming to some roles -- a matter of degree as well which areas), gender identity (what you say
you are -- there seem to be at least five easy categories here), gender _expression_ (what you look to be to others -- it's not clear whether this includes pseudos or that is just a byproduct of ineptness -- at least as many categories as identity) and gender status (what you can get the government, etc., to say you are). I'm sure I missed some, but this is enough to start, not merely looking for terms to match these but also specify at least some of the cluster points in the various maps (some of these clusters are rather small but often the more interesting for al that).